“When the Scriptures teach us that parents should teach their children, the flip side of this is that children should learn from their parents. This is obvious to virtually everyone when it comes to teaching little ones how to tie their shoes or ride their bikes. But at a certain point, an independent spirit kicks in, one typified by ‘Me do it.’ Wise parents do two things with this: the first is that they see this as a first step toward an ultimate goal, which is functioning independence. But the second thing is just as important; this mere desire for independence is not the same thing as successful independence. Again, this is easy to see when a small child insists on falling off the bike by himself.
“It is more difficult to see (but just as present) in children of high school and college age who believe they have the world all figured out. It’s more difficult because their intelligence, education, size, street smarts, and so on are deceiving in appearance. The vast majority of young people need far more direction than they act like they need.” (My Life for Yours, p. 113)
You Think Too Much! 