Supportive Wives

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“Wives who think their husbands are too hard should back their husbands.”

There’s a very important principle in this statement that has nothing to do with being hard.  The importance is in the backing.  The truth here that helps a marriage is that wives should support their husbands. A continual resistance about lots of things or even just one thing is a great distraction and concern for a husband and father.

So, the statement could be made that wives who think their husbands are too ____ should back their husbands.  Even this is true:

Wives who think their husbands are too soft should back their husbands.

…and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33

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Published by Jeff Voegtlin

Dr. Jeff Voegtlin has been in Christian service for over twenty years. He is an associate pastor at Fairhaven Baptist Church in Chesterton, Indiana, and a Vice President of Fairhaven Baptist College. As conductor of the church and schools' orchestra program, and overseer of the educational program of the college, his teaching has helped to train hundreds of young adults to prepare for full-time ministry. After completing a bachelor's degree from Fairhaven Baptist College, he received a master's degree in Bible from Pensacola Christian College. In 2007, he completed the requirements to finish a doctor's degree in education from Bob Jones University. Dr. Voegtlin is available for seminars in instrumental and choral music practice and philosophy, for education seminars, and to preach and present the college ministry.

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  2. Being in sin is in a different category than what I’m talking about. Some people think being soft is being in sin when it is not.

    But, there is an element of respect the wife must always have for her husband, even if he is in sin. I’m not saying she condones or excuses the sin, but she must still respect (reverence) her husband.

  3. I think a wife should always show reverence to her husband, but I don’t think that means always backing him no matter what. Maybe I am misunderstanding what you’re meaning, but it sounds like she thinks (or acts) as if everything he does is right and always agrees with him. Someone can disagree and present the other side of an issue and still be respectful about it.

  4. Barbara, thanks for the comment. I am not saying that a wife has no thoughts of her own or that she can’t express them.

    But, once they have been expressed and the husband has considered them and made his decision, she needs to back him. And, it needs to be a whole-hearted backing. The issue should not be brought up again when the decision is made again under most circumstances.

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