Your Clothes are Talking

There is ample evidence from Scripture that clothing speaks. The problem today is that many young people have not been taught by their parents the language of clothing. There are many issues to this topic, but the one bothering me lately is….

Girls whose skirt is “long enough” and not tight, but actually cut and designed in such a way as to say, “guess what’s under here?” It bothers me that independent baptist girl’s fathers would let their daughters dress this way. Men, don’t be afraid to tell your daughter that the skirt she wants to wear is sexually suggestive! Who should tell her about these things? You, or the other guys and girls? And girls, don’t just think that because the skirt is the right length and is not tight, it’s all OK.

OK, I’m done for now, but this is not just an idiosyncrasy. Your clothes speak for you, even if you don’t know its vocabulary.

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  1. As a mother of a teenage daughter, let me say dress isn’t always easy unless a burka is worn. I believe that when my daughter dresses, it is modest. but I and her father are not looking at her in a way to lust, nor would we. Not that we are saying others are intentionally either. However, if an outfit is modest, and not tight, no slit, how can we look at her and say will that make me lust after her?
    I am bias, I believe my daughter is beautiful (inside and out). So there will be people that unfortunately will lust after her even in a gunny sack. How can I prevent that? How can we prevent what you are appealing too as parents to stop? What is the fine line, and where do we draw it?
    Just stating a problem is good, but to not address the fix, would be better. Give guidelines, dress codes something more. To simply say something like follow the Holy Spirit will not always address the problem. Because The Holy Spirit may have no problem with the outfit. The person can be following guidelines, and be as modest as modesty comes, but lust can still happen because of man’s sin nature.

    As a parent of a teenage daughter, I would rather someone approach me on dress, and rather or not my daughter is wearing something provoking, then just randomly targeted in a sermon, hoping I will get the message.
    I know (99.9%) this is probably a generalized post, I am not the intended target. I am not offended. Nor am I trying to correct or admonish you. I am just relying the problem that parents may have in this subject of dress. That they are not intentionally trying to let their child dress in such a revealing way, it is just that they their child is dressed according to standards, and they don’t naturally lust after their daughter.
    I hope this helps. I pray you are not offended by my post, but will see my frustration as a parent here.

    1. Two very good and helpful books for you to read would be (1) “Dress–The Heart of the Matter,” by Shirley Starr and Lori Waltemyer and (2) “Dressing for the Lord,” by David Cloud.

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